I’m writing this as a narrative based on my recollection of a conversation that happened 45 minutes ago with my six-year old daughter who will be referred to as “E”.
Don’t judge, I’m not going to worry about editing it because I don’t have time, it’s almost 60 degrees outside and I want to publish this today, International Women’s Day.
Driving to the library with the windows rolled down and Cities97 playing on the radio. Kudos to them for dedicating their whole day to International Women’s Day with the host mentioning it several times. E hears it and asks, “Is it International Women’s Day?”
Me: “Yes. What do you think that means?”
E: “It is a day that like a birthday but for all women.”
Me: “Yes, kind of. It celebrates all the things women can do.”
E: “Hey Mom, we’re women!”
Me: “Yes, we get to celebrate us and all the other women we know.”
E: “When is International Men’s Day?”
Me: “There isn’t one. The reason we have one for women is because for a long time women haven’t been as important as men and haven’t had as much power. We need to change that by celebrating all the things women can do.”
E: “That is not fair!”
Me: “Nope. It’s not but that is why we have days like today. To change that. Women like you and me can do just as much as men and just as good. ”
E: “Does Daddy have more power than you?”
Me: “That is kind of complicated. We don’t treat Daddy like he has more power than me and Daddy doesn’t think that he does but sometimes he does in other places.”
E: “I can do all the same things that men can do. I am just as smart and strong.”
Me: “Yes, you are. Don’t forget that you can do all those things. Some day you could even be President if you want.”
E: “Yep, I’m going to be a veterinarian, meteorologist, ballerina and President.”
Me: “Yes you can do all that.”
E: “What if K (little brother) thinks he has more power than me?”
Me: “We are teaching K that he doesn’t and that he needs to treat us like he doesn’t have more power than us.”
E: “I will help him learn that.”
Long break in conversation as we pick out books and check out.
E: “Mom, its still not fair that men have more power.”
Me: “I know. We don’t have to let them have more power.”
E: “I will never let that. If a boy says that he can do things better than me, I will tell him that he can’t.”
Me: “Good, because that is true.”
E: “Mom, can we get donuts to celebrate being women?”
So, we got donuts.
And I’m crying.